How to Talk to Your Child About Seeing a Therapist
It can be difficult to see your child struggle with their emotional wellbeing. As parents we recognise the importance of seeking support, yet can feel concerned about how a child will react when we talk to them about seeing a therapist or psychologist. Understandably, parents can feel anxious that talking to a child about attending therapy could lead to further worries. Seeing a psychologist should not be scary, and parents can have supportive conversations.
Keep it Simple:
Talk to your child using language they will understand. Share the reasons for seeing a psychologist by sharing how you have noticed that they have been struggling. Spend time talking about how a psychologist will support them to make sense of their tricky feelings and help parents and other grown-ups understand ways to offer support.
Normalise the Experience:
In a similar way to visiting the doctor if we feel physically unwell, it is important to visit a psychologist to take care of our mental health. Let your child know many people see a psychologist, they will first take the time to get to know them and will then talk about their challenges and difficulties.
Explain the Process:
It can be a big step to share our thoughts and feelings, and your child might be worried about what other people will think or don’t know what to expect. Walk them through a therapy session; they will arrive at the clinic and sit in the waiting room, the psychologist will then invite them into a nice, comfy room that feels like a lounge, they will ask questions to learn more about them and they will be able to bring their parents or caregivers along. .
Find the Right Time:
Parents can feel unsure about when to talk about seeing a psychologist. Find a calm moment and the right time for an uninterrupted conversation. Encourage your child to ask questions, answer honestly and reassure them that it’s ok to feel nervous or unsure. Speak to your child with enough time so you can help them prepare for the appointment.
Dr Danielle Grey is a Clinical Psychologist and the Clinical Director for the Purple House Clinic, Birmingham. The clinic is located in Coleshill and offers sessions Monday-Saturday.
