Are you feeling anxious?
Are you feeling anxious?
Anxiety is necessary for our survival. It can be a healthy and helpful response as it mobilises us into action to escape danger. However, if you're safe at home and you're anxious about something that has happened or might happen, then you are suffering needlessly.
Anxiety is usually embedded into our subconscious, the part of the mind that stores everything we've ever experienced. The subconscious is wired for the first time in utero and during our childhood and this means that there are patterns in the brain created during this time that can set up behaviours for years to come. So, if most of our behaviours come from our childhood subconscious programming, it's no surprise that many of us have no idea where chronic anxiety comes from!
Humans are highly dependent on their caregivers for survival and our two basic emotional needs are to get connection and avoid rejection. When we experience a lack of connection or we feel rejected, this can trigger our primal fears and can set up a pattern of over anxious' responses in later life. In my experience, the root cause of anxiety can usually be traced back to situations in our childhood where we formed beliefs that we were not good enough, we felt different or formed a belief that something was not available to us such as love, money, protection or a voice to express ourselves. These can all lead to unhelpful anxiety in its many guises; fear of failure, overwhelm, self-criticism, people-pleasing, panic and perfectionism amongst others.
Fortunately, there are many tools that can help those suffering with anxiety. For instance, Rapid Transformational Therapy allows us to understand the root cause of our anxious thoughts and feelings and that can then be used to quickly reset the fear response.
Here are my other top tools to help reduce anxiety:
- Anchor yourself in your breath. Breathe in for the count of 4, hold for the count of 7 and breathe out for the count of 8. Repeat until you feel calmer.
- Slow down worrying thoughts in your head to three times slower than your normal voice. Then speed them up to three times faster. Then, think of an actor, comedian or a friend you find hilarious and hear them saying the thoughts in your head.
- Self-praise: Every day say I am good enough, loveable, worthy, I accept myself, I am important. If you find this difficult, try inserting I am learning to know that I am loveable etc. .The mind learns by repetition so it will gradually accept these new beliefs and you can re-programme negative or anxious feelings. You can also write these affirmations on sticky notes for kids to tell themselves!
Emma Gosling is a Rapid Transformational Therapist specialising in freeing people from anxiety and lack of self-belief. For a free telephone or online consultation you can contact her via: Email: email@example.com Website: rtthealing.com Mobile: 07702 098291
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