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2321_image1.jpgTeasing is an inevitable part of growing up. However, some children can be more sensitive to it than others, with some researchers suggesting that brighter children can be more sensitive than their peers. Whatever the reasons for your child's sensitivity, it is important to deal with it carefully, acknowledging their concerns, whilst helping them build their own coping strategies. Try these simple techniques to help your child cope better:

Establish the facts

First, it is important to establish what your child is being teased about, and why it upsets them. This step is important for two reasons; firstly, it should help you establish that your child is in fact experiencing teasing, and not bullying, and secondly, by listening to your child, you are validating their concerns, and letting them know you care. If you dismiss their concerns about teasing, then you are simply adding to their distress.

When your child is telling you about the teasing it is important that you don't offer any advice, pass any judgment, or trivialise their concerns by telling them they are overreacting. Simply sit and listen to what they tell you, paraphrasing where appropriate to clarify your understanding.

Identify appropriate strategies

Once you have established whether your child is being teased about the same thing each time, or whether it is simply random comments, you can help them find strategies to cope. I tend to adopt the €œtry and deal with the issue yourself, and if you can't, then tell someone who can help€ approach. This is much more empowering to the child, and helps them 2321_image2.jpgremain independent. However, for this approach to work, you need to help your child identify a number of appropriate strategies, which they can practice at home, before trying them in €˜reallife' situations. Over time with continued practice they will find a strategy, which works best for them. These are the strategies, which I have found to be the most effective:

Ignore the teasing, and walk away. Teasing often continues because children get a reaction. If the reaction is removed by walking away, often the teasing stops.

Have a standard comment, which they say when they are being teased, e.g. €œI don't like it when people talk to me like that€, and then walk away. This comment must be delivered calmly and confidently, for it to be effective, which is why it is important to practice at home, before trying it out.

Change the subject. Ignore the teasing and engage the child who is teasing in something completely unrelated. This requires thinking on your feet and is suited to some children more than others. Again, the comment must be delivered calmly and confidently to be effective, as it usually throws the teasers off balance. The key point with these strategies is that you want to discourage your child from losing their temper, and remain in control.

Teach techniques for staying calm

Teach your child techniques for staying calm and in control, such as:

Holding their head high, rather than low

Look people in the eye

Talk assertively and firmly, without raising their voice

Breathing techniques to reduce tension

Counting to 2321_image3.jpgten in their head before offering a reply

Reminding themselves that they are bright and capable children who can resolve this issue themselves.

Dr Maryhan Baker

I am a parent and child coach who provides support across a number of parenting issues either through parenting seminars or my Brainboost subscriptions boxes.  I have a doctorate in Child Psychology and amongst my areas of expertise are language development, positive discipline, confident children and child intellectual development, although this is not exhaustive. 

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